With Valentine’s Day just around the corner, love is all around us, as the words of the song go! According to the dictionary, love is an intense feeling of deep affection and can include romantic love, love for family or friends or spiritual or religious love. But there’s one form of love, which isn’t spoken about enough, yet is probably the most important. That is self-love, and in order to truly love someone, you must first love yourself. 

However, many people dismiss love for themselves, believing it to be egotistical or selfish but self-love is far from it. In fact, loving one’s self simply means caring about your own wellbeing and happiness. Unfortunately, because of more attention on what must seem like the perfect life of celebrities and people posting their big wins on social media, self-love is difficult for some. It is far too easy to constantly compare ourselves to others and simply feel not good enough. And in a world where achievement is king, beating ourselves up for not achieving as much as others is all too commonplace.

So, what can we do to support our happiness and well-being and increase our feelings of self-love?

Here are a few suggestions from one of our experts, Liz:


Feel gratitude for yourself and everything in your life. Keeping a gratitude diary and comparing ourselves to people who have less than us rather than more than us can really help increase our sense of appreciation for ourselves and what we have in life.


Try sound healing, a type of therapy which has been around for thousands of years. It involves music creating vibrations, which are then absorbed by the cells of the body. This can increase our physical, mental and emotional wellbeing as well as boost our creativity.


Eating healthy but also a little of what you enjoy and doing daily exercise can help to nourish your body, mind and soul. Exercise doesn’t have to be anything strenuous, just going for a 30 minute walk can be enough.


There are lots of free self-love meditations available online or via an app, some only 5 or 10 minutes long, so take a few minutes for yourself each day to let go of all of the external stuff that’s going on around you and find that inner peace.


Getting sufficient quality sleep is vital for our health and wellbeing, and with everything that has been going on over the last 10 months many people are struggling to sleep properly. If this is you, rather than dwelling on it, which can make things worse, be accepting of it and try to follow as many of the sleep hygiene recommendations as possible, such as getting some early morning light, turning screens off at least 2 hours before bed, avoiding alcohol, not eating late and switching your mind off, perhaps by listening to a sleep or relaxation meditation before bed.


The vagus nerve carries signals from the digestive system to the brain and vice versa. If we have long-standing trauma or chronic stress, our vagus nerve may not function as efficiently as it should and could need stimulating. When our vagus nerve works properly it has many benefits including reducing inflammation, enabling us to deal with stress effectively and supporting brain health. Ways to stimulate it include singing, gargling, having cold showers, exercising, meditating, breathing from the abdomen rather than the chest and keeping our gut healthy.  In fact, increasing the levels of beneficial bacteria in our gut by taking a good quality multi-strain live bacteria supplement, can be a great place to start!


Giving yourself time out to do the things you enjoy can help to feed your soul. Make a point of doing more of what you love, less of what you tolerate and where possible, none of what you hate!


Giving and receiving, including giving to yourself will not only create positivity but as per the law of attraction will increase abundance in your physical, emotional and even financial health.


Recognize that just being you is enough. Unless you genuinely want to be, you don’t have to be a goal achiever, but equally, if there are changes you wish to make then go for it.


Learn to forgive yourself and others. Holding onto negative feelings about past experiences serves nobody and will only result in unhappiness and regret.


Don’t be a people pleaser. Use your intuition or your ‘gut feeling’ to make decisions, don’t make them based on what others want. This will just lead you to lose respect in yourself and stop trusting yourself.


Be kind to yourselves and treat yourself how you would treat others and expect them to treat you. Many people give themselves such a hard time and criticize themselves about things that they wouldn’t dream of criticizing others for.

Remember showing ourselves love every day, not just on Valentine’s Day, can radically change our lives and the lives of those around us, enabling us to be happier, healthier and to love more deeply.